Professional Dominants (and others’) BDSM Resource List

In preparing for my presentation today“If I Knew Then What I Know Now:
50 Things Every Up and Coming Professional Should Know!” at DomConLA, I realized I have an INCREDIBLE amount of information and resources I have been compiling over the years! As it continued to grow, I realized some links were down and there are many more resources out there. So for now, I am going to compile this as a blog post and I ask for your help in making it more comprehensive. Also, although this compilation is primarily Professional related, I also want to create a more comprehensive directory for everyone. So, please read through, find some new ways of educating yourself around BDSM and Kink, and be sure to comment with more possibilities, (queers, furries, chastity folk etc – you know who you are!!!).


xo Eve
Professional Dominant and BDSM/Kink Education

In Person Live Training:

Me! I offer in person, long distance, individual and group classes
Eve Minax
Mistress Minax
Annual Professional Dominant Intensives/Erotic Dominance Intensive for Men and Women
Cleo Dubois Academy of SM-Arts
Rope Dojo and Forte Femme

Bondassage Professional Training Program

Tantric Based SM: Urban Tantra Professionals Training and Coaching

POC Specific:

Women of Color Sexual Health Network


Business Coaching

Conferences all over the US, but the “go to” for Professionals is DomCon LA and Atlanta

A few other favorite conferences, not necessarily for the professional:

A wonderful small gathering on the East Coast Camp Crucible
Portland Kinksters seem to “get it” KinkFest
One of the most revered of all BDSM conferences Thunder in the Mountains
Stellar conferences and classes all over the US Dark Odyssey

Online Training and Education

Kink Academy
Kink University

Professional Dominants Community Resources

The Scene: DomBoss

Max Fisch – The Hang

All Star Dommes

Fetlife (with groups for professionals)

Professional Dominants Marketing Resources


Pandemos Mistress Directory

DDI (Domme Directory International) Magazine and Directory

Eros Guide

Other World Kingdom

Legal Resources and Activism

Recent legal article on California laws:

Actual California prostitution laws (dry):

SWOP (Sex Workers Outrech Project) USA:

Sex Workers Activists and Allies

Bound Not Gagged (blog covering legal, cultural and political issues around sex work):

Sex In The Public Square (pro- sex work, sex positive activism blog)

Desiree Alliance (Sex worker advocacy and support):

International focus on sex work and activism:

Woodhull Sexual Freedom Alliance

National Coalition for Sexual Freedom

Kink Aware Professionals: Resources of all sorts, primarily therapists

Triple x law

ACLU American Civil Liberties Union


Stockroom Los Angeles Store and online

Mr. S Leather

Fort Troff – best toys and prices Online



Beautiful Custom Corsetry, San Francisco

Superb Custom Corsetry Los Angeles, CA

Fun semi custom latex clothes, UK (online)

Lust Designs custom latex clothing SF, CA

Recommended Reading List

“How to” Books

The Bottoming Book or How to Get Terrible Things Done to You by Wonderful People.  Easton, Dossie & Lizst, Catherine A. Greenery Press, San Francisco, CA 1995

The Bride Wore Black Leather … and he looked fabulous: an etiquette guide for the rest of us. Campbell, Andrew. Greenery Press, Emeryville, CA 2000.

A Charm School for Sissy Maids.  Lorelei, Mistress. Greenery Press, Emeryville, CA 2001

Come Hither: A Commonsense Guide to Kinky Sex. Brame, Gloria G, Fireside, New York, NY 2000

Consensual Sadomasochism: How to Talk About It & How to Do It Safely,  Henkin, William A. & Holiday, Sybil. Daedalus, San Francisco, CA 1996

The Ethical Slut: A Guide to Infinite Sexual Possibilities. Easton, Dossie & Liszt, Catherine A., Greenery Press, San Francisco, CA 1997, reissue 2013

Dr. Sprinkle’s Spectacular Sex: Make Over Your Love Life with One of the World’s Great Sex Experts. Sprinkle, Annie. Tarcher/Penguin, New York, NY 2005

Family Jewels: a guide to male genital play and torture.  Haberman, Hardy. Greenery Press, Emeryville, CA 2001

Flogging.  Bean, Joseph W, Greenery Press, Emeryville, CA 2000

Intimate Invasions: The Erotic Ins & Outs of Enema Play.  Strict, M. R, Greenery Press, Oakland, CA 2004

Jay Wiseman’s Erotic Bondage Handbook.  Wiseman, Jay. Greenery Press, Emeryville, CA 2000

Juice: Electricity for Pleasure and Pain.  ‘Uncle Abdul’.  Greenery Press, San Francisco, CA 1998

KinkyCrafts: 99 Do-It-Yourself S/M Toys for the Kinky Handyperson. Green, Lady ed. with Easton, James. Greenery Press, San Francisco, CA 1998

The Knot Book.  Budworth, Geoffrey. Sterling, New York, NY 1985

Leather and Latex Care.  Thibault, Kelly J.  Daedulus, San Francisco, CA 1996

Leathersex: A Guide for the Curious Outsider and the Serious Player.  Bean, Joseph W. Daedalus, San Francisco, CA 1994

Look Into My Eyes: How to Use Hypnosis to Bring Out the Best in Your Sex Life.  Masters, Peter. Greenery Press, Emeryville, CA 2001

On The Safe Edge: A Manual for SM Play.  Jacques, Trevor. WholeSM Publishing, Toronto 1993

Safe, Sane, Consensual and Fun.  Warren, John. Diversified Services, Brighton, MA 1995

Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns: the Romance and Sexual Sorcery of Sadomasochism.  Miller, Philip & Devon, Molly. Mystic Rose Books, Fairfield, CT 1999

The Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage.  Midori.  Greenery Press, Emeryville, CA 2001

The Topping Book or Getting Good at Being Bad.  Easton, Dossie & Lizst, Catherine A, Greenery Press, San Francisco, CA 1995

The Toybag Guide to:
Canes and Caning.  Hardy, Janet W.
Clips and Clamps.  Rinella, Jack
Dungeon Emergencies and Supplies.  Wiseman, Jay
Foot and Shoe Worship.  Midori
Hot Wax and Temperature Play Spectrum
Greenery Press, Oakland, CA 2004
Trust: The Handbook, A Guide to the Sensual and Spiritual Art of Handballing.  Herrman, Bert. Alamo Square Press, San Francisco CA 1991

Training with Miss Abernathy: a workbook for erotic slaves and their owners.  Abernathy, Christina. Greenery Press, Oakland, CA 1998

The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women.  Taormino, Tristan.  Cleis Press, San Francisco, CA 1998

Whips and Whipmaking. Morgan, David W. Cornell Maritime Press, Centreville, Maryland 1972, 2004

Woof! Perspectives Into the Erotic Care & Training of the Human Dog.  Daniels, Michael. A Boner Book, The Nazca Plains Corporation, Las Vegas, NV 2003


Bizarre Sex and Other Crimes of Passion.  Tal, Stan ed. Masquerade Books, New York, NY 1998

A Defense of Masochism.  Phillips, Anita. Faber and Faber, London, UK 1998

Deviant Desires: Incredibly Strange Sex.  Gates, Katharine. Juno Books, New York, NY 2000

Different Loving: The World of Sexual Dominance & Submission.  Brame, Gloria G. & William D. & Jacobs, Jon. Villard, New York, NY 1993

Dominatrix: A Memoir, The Making of Mistress Chloe.  Mansfield, Claire & Mendelssohn, John. Headline, London, UK 2002

The Erotic Mind: Unlocking the Inner Sources of Sexual Passion and Fulfillment.  Morin, Jack. HarperCollins, New York, NY 1996

Erotic Power: An Exploration of Dominance and Submission. Scott, Gini Graham, Citadel Press, Toronto, Ontario 1998

Masochism: Coldness and Cruelty, Venus in Furs.  Deleuze Gilles & Sacher-Masoch, Leopold von.  Zone Books, New York, NY 1991

Pain and Passion: A Psychoanalyst Explores the World of S&M.  Stoller, Robert. Plenum Press, New York, NY 1991

Private Theatre: Personal Observations and Revelations of a Dominatrix.  Mistress J. Domina Books, Kew Victoria, Australia 2002

Real Live Nude Girl: Chronicles of Sex-Positive Culture.  Queen, Carol. Cleis Press, Pittsburgh, PA 1997

Sex Tips and Tales from Women Who Dare: Exploring the Exotic Erotic.  Baker, Jo-Anne. Hunter House, Alameda, CA 2001

‘You Beat People Up For a Living, Don’t You, Mummy?”: Inside The World of the Dominatrix.  Turner, Roy ed. Absolute Elsewhere, Brighton, UK 2001

SM/Sex, and Spirituality

Ancient Lovemaking Secrets: The Journey Toward Immortality.  McNeil, James W.  L9H Publications 1998

From Sex to Superconsciousness.  Osho. Full Circle, New Delhi, India 2003

The Love Cure: Therapy Erotic and Sexual.  Haule, John Ryan. Spring Publications, Woodstock, CT 1996

The Multi-Orgasmic Man: How Any Man Can Experience Multiple Orgasms and Dramatically Enhance His Sexual Relationship.  Chia, Mantak & Abrams, Douglas. HarperCollins, San Francisco, CA 1996

Radical Ecstasy.  Easton, Dossie & Hardy, Janet W. Greenery Press, Oakland, CA 2004

Sexual Reflexology: Activating the Taoist Points of Love.  Chia, Mantak & Wei, William U. Destiny Books, Rochester, VT 2003

Tantric Yoga: The Royal Path to Raising Kundalini Power.  Frost, Gavin and Yvonne. Samuel Weiser, York Beach, ME1989

Gender and Sexuality

Bi Any Other Name: Bisexual People Speak Out.  Hutchins, Loraine & Kaahumanu, Lani ed.  Alyson Publications, Boston, MA 1991

Gender Outlaw: On Men, Women and The Rest of Us. Bornstein, Kate. First Vintage Books, New York, NY 1994

Genderqueer: Voices from Beyond the Sexual Binary.  Nestle, Joan, & Howell, Clare & Wilchins, Riki eds. Alyson Publications, Los Angeles, CA 2002

The Lazy Crossdresser.  Anders, Charles.  Greenery Press, Emeryville, CA 2002

Miss Vera’s Cross-Dress for Success.  Vera, Veronica. Random House, Toronto 2002

Miss Vera’s Finishing School for Boys Who Want to Be Girls.  Vera, Veronica. Doubleday Main Street Books, New York, NY 1997

Susie Sexperts Lesbian Sex World.  Bright, Susie.  Cleis Press, San Francisco, CA 1994