Entries by eveminax

What is Chastity?

ONLINE: Lock and Load: From Tie and Tease to Chastity Please NOTE: This will be an online class via Zoom. Zoom information will be sent to all participants one hour before the event. — Tease and Denial is truly delightful for all involved. Advanced techniques for controlling orgasms can have a remarkable impact when sexually […]

What Does a Dominatrix Look Like?

A lot of people are talking about the Netflix show about a young Dominatrix. So far, I’d say it’s the equivalent of a waitress putting herself through school being called a professional restaurateur. She’s no pro, perhaps she will become one. We’ll see. In the meantime, here’s a little revision on a piece I wrote […]

Five Sexy Kinky Gift Ideas!

Who doesn’t love a sexy gift? Whatever the reason, be it holiday, birthday, or just because, sexy gifts can bring laughter, joy, pleasure, intimacy, knowledge and power. And what’s more sexy than power? Ideas! People often ask me what my favorite sexy gifts are,-  and I have many many options at my disposal. As I […]

Want To Learn To Be A Dominatrix?

I love teaching, especially the up and coming Dominatrix. Whether you come from such fields of sex works as Full Body Sensual Massage, Bondage Modeling, Exotic Dancing/Stripping, Escort, GFE, you get the value of the work. Do you need to deepen and expand your skills, (energy, corporal, client relations, etc), gain more camaraderie, (peers and […]

Healing Through BDSM

How does BDSM facilitate personal growth? If you’ve been following my writing over the years, you may have learned that I live with transgenerational trauma which led me to experience BDSM as instrumental to my healing process. Although technically I was kinky from the beginning of my sexual explorations, it was only when I read […]

Peg Your Heart Out and Feel it Too!

Walking into the lobby of Catalystcon West 2014, I wondered what my purpose was being there. Sure, I had a panel wherein we would discuss the complications around private vs public in the sex lives of industry people, but surely there was more. Within a half an hour of being in the lobby, I was […]

Some Thoughts on Dominance and Submission

As a devoted Dominatrix, I think about and practice Dominant/submissive relationships. The conflux of dominance and submission is ambiguous at best: how about control and surrender? Indeed, all relationships involve power exchange, usually implicit or ignored.  D/s relationships represent power exchange with a twist: explicitness. They are intentional in that they acknowledge the intrinsic elements […]