Thoughts & Explorations

D/s lifestyle and relationships • May 9, 2018

Some Thoughts on Dominance and Submission

As a devoted Dominatrix, I think about and practice Dominant/submissive relationships. The conflux of dominance and submission is ambiguous at best: how about control and...

BDSM Education • Mar 18, 2017

How Have Sexual Fetishes Changed Over Time?

I was recently asked this question and here’s the synopsis of my take…happy to have your input! First of all, it is important to establish...

Happenings • Mar 8, 2017

Sexual Knowledge is Sexual Power

Hello Dear and Lovely Erotic Explorers, Happy International Women’s Day! As you may know we are living in some pretty surreal times and that personal...

D/s lifestyle and relationships • Sep 28, 2016

Agree to Disagree: Forgiveness is Easy, Walking Away is Hard

Ever felt like you were beating your head against a wall in a romantic or even kink based relationship? Why do you try so hard...

BDSM Education • Aug 23, 2016

No Pain, No Gain? Understanding Erotic and Non-Erotic Pain

Today I went to see my Physical Therapist for a Rotator Cuff injury rehab session. After we spent some time getting acquainted and starting the...

BDSM Education • Feb 28, 2016

Fairy Tales Can Come True

This piece was written a couple of years ago, and I have had the fortune to continue this work. So grateful. May it bring you...

BDSM sessions • Jan 14, 2016

Managing Pyschic Waste in the New Year

Previously published in Spirit of Desire edited by Lee Harrington. Managing Psychic Waste: Transcendence Through Humiliation You say I hold the key and perhaps I...

Reviews • Nov 20, 2015

Who’s Your Daddy? The Womanizer Review

There’s a hot new vibrator on the streets and rumor has it, she’s a a beauty, so you know I had to get me one....

BDSM Education • Sep 30, 2015

Five Books for Kink/Poly Beginners

I was just responding to a follow up email from a wonderful couple who started working with me last week and I wanted to give...

Diary • Sep 12, 2015

Why is the Measure of Love Loss?

For over a week I’ve been trying to form the words to simply announce news that gets stuck in my mind and heart whirling around,...