Some Thoughts on Dominance and Submission
As a devoted Dominatrix, I think about and practice Dominant/submissive relationships. The conflux of dominance and submission is ambiguous at best: how about control and…
How Have Sexual Fetishes Changed Over Time?
I was recently asked this question and here’s the synopsis of my take…happy to have your input! First of all, it is important to establish…
Sexual Knowledge is Sexual Power
Hello Dear and Lovely Erotic Explorers, Happy International Women’s Day! As you may know we are living in some pretty surreal times and that personal…
Agree to Disagree: Forgiveness is Easy, Walking Away is Hard
Ever felt like you were beating your head against a wall in a romantic or even kink based relationship? Why do you try so hard…
No Pain, No Gain? Understanding Erotic and Non-Erotic Pain
Today I went to see my Physical Therapist for a Rotator Cuff injury rehab session. After we spent some time getting acquainted and starting the…
Fairy Tales Can Come True
This piece was written a couple of years ago, and I have had the fortune to continue this work. So grateful. May it bring you…
Managing Pyschic Waste in the New Year
Previously published in Spirit of Desire edited by Lee Harrington. Managing Psychic Waste: Transcendence Through Humiliation You say I hold the key and perhaps I…
Who’s Your Daddy? The Womanizer Review
There’s a hot new vibrator on the streets and rumor has it, she’s a a beauty, so you know I had to get me one….
Five Books for Kink/Poly Beginners
I was just responding to a follow up email from a wonderful couple who started working with me last week and I wanted to give…
Why is the Measure of Love Loss?
For over a week I’ve been trying to form the words to simply announce news that gets stuck in my mind and heart whirling around,…