Thoughts & Explorations

Audio Clips • Sep 6, 2013

What Do You Want? Getting the Kinks Out with Mistress Minax

Sexploration with Monika – What Do You Want? Getting the Kinks Out with Mistress Minax [html5mp3small:20311] What do you really want? If someone gave you...

Diary • Jun 23, 2013

How to negotiate a scene by KL Joy

Hey folks! My name is KL Joy, and I’m going to write a little today about how to negotiate a scene with a potential play...

Diary • Jun 4, 2013

Help and Change: Let Me Help You Change?

As a professional coach who has worked with hundreds of people over the years, one question keeps recurring: “How could I ever tell my (current/future),...

Diary • May 8, 2013

Consent and Fantasy: Ruminations on Amanda Berry et al

What started as a Facebook post  now has become a full fledged entry for me as I continue the dialogue around the horrors of what...

Happenings • Apr 30, 2013

Quandary: Negotiating and Troubleshooting Your Scenes

May 19, 2013 3:00 PM Asking for what you want is hard. Getting what you want is harder. Accepting and rolling with it when you...

General • Apr 16, 2013

Power Dynamics in BDSM/Kink Relationships

An often overlooked and misunderstood topic, this essay gives a thoughtful nudge to look a bit more closely at BDSM and Kink Relationships.

Happenings • Apr 16, 2013

An Education in Violation Play – Thursday, May 16th

Violation or “Rape” Play can be a highly sensitive subject. Come learn more about the whys and hows in a safe and welcoming environment!  Thursday...

General • Apr 16, 2013

Erotic Dominance Intensive with Cleo DuBois

For Women: April 8th and 9th San Francisco Click HERE for details!

Diary • Mar 11, 2013

Why It’s so Frustrating to Educate Kink and BDSM

This is quite possibly the best essay I’ve ever read arguing for more education of the writers who wish to condemn kink and BDSM.

Diary • Mar 1, 2013

Let’s talk about Orgasm!

Mary Roach is a hilarious and provocative writer. I love her book “Stiff” on the history of the cadaver, and of course “Boink” has become...