Entries by eveminax

Playing With Power: Dominance and Submission

  Consensual Dominance and submission in relationships reflect an intentional acknowledgement and exploration of intrinsic power dynamics in an erotic fashion. These relationships draw upon the nature of the relationship, (the “bossier” person, more educated, older etc tend to traditionally be the “dominant”), to play with the already established power exchange. Conversely, some of these […]

What Does a Dominatrix Look Like to You? by Eve Minax

“Come to the edge, he said. They said: We are afraid. Come to the edge, he said. They came. He pushed them and they flew.”  Guillaume Apollinaire One of my Sisyphean challenges in life is to demystify the myth of the Dominatrix – to fill out the missing gaps and one-dimensional characteristics that permeate our […]

Four Common Mistakes Masochists Make

by Eve Minax If you were to dig around the web or your local library, you will find a plethora of fictional and nonfictional work discussing the masochist. In fact, the term itself came from the surname of the man who wrote the original classic “Venus in Fur”,  Leopold Von Sacher-Masoch (see below). Of course, like […]

Oops, I Forgot My Safeword!

In the realm of BDSM and kink play, safe, sane and consensual rests as the buzz phrase to encourage newcomers to join (we’re safe!), illicit normalcy (we’re not crazy!), and utilize tactics to insure we’re all in this together (we all agreed it was ok … right?). Let’s look at our phrase a little more […]

Tip-Top: 10 Ways of Being a Great Top!

If you read last week’s blog, then you learned about how to be a great bottom. In honor of reciprocity and equal responsibility, this week’s blog will be on How to Be a Great Top! You will find the similarities astonishing.

Bottoms Up! 10 Ways of Being a Great Bottom

Oftentimes people conflate the terms “bottom” and “submissive” – to which I cringe because they are distinguishable. Today we will be discussing ten of the top ways of being a great bottom, specifically in Kink/BDSM, (if interested in how to be a better top, go HERE .  The noun is a “bottom” and the verb […]

Venus In Fur San Francisco

I had a wonderful opportunity to see a production with ACT, (American Contemporary Theater), recently of Venus in Fur, and adaptation to the novella written by Sachor Von Masoch whose name is the origin of Masochism. If you are not familiar with the book, (he woos his Wanda, a beautiful, wealthy, young woman and “transforms” […]

Sexuality: How to Encapsulate it in a Few Minutes!

This snappy video encapsulates Gender and Sexuality Studies in one small piece. I kinda love this guy. I keep finding his videos even though I’m not sure exactly who he is. Do you? In any case, he hit the nail on the head for me when he said this “So a biological female can be […]

What Does a Dominatrix Look Like to You? by Eve Minax

“Come to the edge, he said. They said: We are afraid. Come to the edge, he said. They came. He pushed them and they flew.”  Guillaume Apollinaire One of my Sisyphean challenges in life is to demystify the myth of the Dominatrix – to fill out the missing gaps and one-dimensional characteristics that permeate our […]