Can BDSM Help a Relationship?
Can BDSM help a relationship? I’d like to think so. Whether the relationship is new and you’re exploring or it’s mature and you are searching…
Want To Learn To Be A Dominatrix?
I love teaching, especially the up and coming Dominatrix. Whether you come from such fields of sex works as Full Body Sensual Massage, Bondage Modeling,…
Healing Through BDSM
How does BDSM facilitate personal growth? If you’ve been following my writing over the years, you may have learned that I live with transgenerational trauma…
Some Thoughts on Dominance and Submission
As a devoted Dominatrix, I think about and practice Dominant/submissive relationships. The conflux of dominance and submission is ambiguous at best: how about control and…
Agree to Disagree: Forgiveness is Easy, Walking Away is Hard
Ever felt like you were beating your head against a wall in a romantic or even kink based relationship? Why do you try so hard…
A Modest Complaint (Reissue from 2010)
A Modest Complaint December 23, 2009 Recently, after placing an ad for a service-oriented submissive on Collarme.com (supposedly the enclave for said people), I received…
Searching For Love: Three Ways to Find a Kinky Partner
Several years ago, I was dining with an acquaintance who was a therapist. Chatting casually with mutual interest, midway through the meal she puts down…
Talking About Your Desires With Your Partner: How?
One of the most frequent topics I have with people is HOW to talk about their sexual desires, especially “kinky” ones with their partners. It’s…